Note: This is a repost from my other business blog at the DeStress InstituteTM Enjoy!
This week’s topic: How Does Distrust Lead to Aging?
with Sheri Keys As a person who wasn’t able to establish trust in childhood because my single mentally ill mother wasn’t able to take care of me properly, I can tell you first hand how important trust is to your health as you move through your one and only life. For me, all the mistakes I made in my twenties were made because I didn’t trust. I didn’t trust myself to be able to attract what I needed in life. I didn’t trust that healthy people existed for me. What I later learned, through having and raising my four children (my first experience of unconditional love), was that your ability to trust is the essence of health. For me, I practiced letting go, giving in and not worrying about those people around me that might and sometimes did break my trust. I learned that as humans, their trust-breaking was about them learning lessons too. More often than not it had absolutely nothing to do with my worthiness of a healthy relationship. As I surrounded myself with healthier people in my life (and in my business) who trusted and gave unconditional love, I began to look and feel better. Why would something like our ability to trust affect the way we look and feel? In my opinion, it goes something like this: We don’t trust so then we fear the actions of others and then we perpetually worry. Worry = Stress and stress negatively affects our bodies. Stress is the nation’s number one killer and leads to heart disease, strokes, insomnia, irritability, migraines, ulcers, asthma, and the list goes on and on. What can you do today? Breathe and let go. Let others make their mistakes or not. Begin to notice the moments where you have the choice not to be affected. Begin to pay attention to your attachments of reacting to others. Click here to comment or share your advice on our blog about this week’s perspective. Distrust Leads to Aging – Star Wars Style Distrust is sourced from a choice to embrace the dark side. This core of this choice is usually because we do not want to repeat experiences that left us feeling abandoned, vulnerable, and exposed. We all have had those experiences however; if you have not forgiven those that hurt you then bitterness, anger and fear keeps you in the pain of the dark side. Everything we do is a practice that becomes embedded in our lives as habits. The practice of distrusting others progressively closes you down to life’s blessings. Turning away from the light creates resentment. Resentment breeds bitterness and births the certainty that your choice to continue distrusting is the right choice. Now you are living in a nervous system this is constantly under siege. This creates the need to live a stressful vigilant state that when accompanied by resentment, anger and fear causes worry lines and wrinkles to become etched in your face. Constant stress is shown to cause premature aging as it affects us on the chromosomal level. The path is to practice being unreasonably forgiving to yourself and others for the past. Focusing on the lesson these experiences taught you while learning to embrace your pain keeps you honoring life and all it brings. Trust that you will respond, in the moment to all situations with love in your heart. If a moment of distrust rises within you, focus on staying aware, open, and kind. Remain mindful of red flags, if they arise. You do not have to be a Jedi to be lured to the dark side. Choose the light side in your darkest moments and remain youthful and free. Click here to comment or share your advice on our blog about this week’s perspective.